When you have a baby everyone says ‘enjoy it, it goes so quick’, ‘make sure you make the most of them being this age’, etc etc, but you don’t realise, as your living through the madness of having a newborn, or a toddler, that they are so right. It goes so quickly, in the blink of an eye, you go from having a tiny new born baby to a tearaway toddler without really having any idea where the years went.
Every year that goes by goes quicker and quicker and you forget to appreciate all the little things they do because your always there, so you just don’t think about it. Its sad but true that their childhood is so brief, but also its one of the most amazing times of their life, when they learn all the skills they need for the rest of their life, but still with their childhood innocence intact. Its a time that you can never get back, whether you are living it as the child or observing it as a parent, so it should be cherished.
Every new word they learn, every smile, every tantrum, every step, every laugh, every cry, because one day they wont be little anymore and one day it will be the last time, and perhaps you wont even realise until it is, because eventually everyone has to grow up, even if you never want them too.
I have seen this poem online so many times and it really captures the reality of being a parent and how easy it is, forgetting in all the madness, that there is a last time for every milestone, and special moment as a baby, toddler, child and teenager.
The Last Time
From the moment you hold your baby in your arms,
You will never be the same.
You might long for the person you were before,
When you had freedom and time,
And nothing in particular to worry about.
You will know tiredness like you never knew it before,
And days will run into days that are exactly the same,
Full of feeding and burping,
Whining and fighting,
Naps, or lack of naps. It might seem like a never-ending cycle.
But don’t forget…
There is a last time for everything.
There will come a time when you will feed your baby
for the very last time.
They will fall asleep on you after a long day
And it will be the last time you ever hold your sleeping child.
One day you will carry them on your hip,
then set them down,
And never pick them up that way again.
You will scrub their hair in the bath one night
And from that day on they will want to bathe alone.
They will hold your hand to cross the road,
Then never reach for it again.
They will creep into your room at midnight for cuddles,
And it will be the last night you ever wake for this.
One afternoon you will sing ‘the wheels on the bus’
and do all the actions,
Then you’ll never sing that song again.
They will kiss you goodbye at the school gate,
the next day they will ask to walk to the gate alone.
You will read a final bedtime story and wipe your
last dirty face.
They will one day run to you with arms raised,
for the very last time.
The thing is, you won’t even know it’s the last time
until there are no more times, and even then,
it will take you a while to realise.
So while you are living in these times,
remember there are only so many of them and
when they are gone,
you will yearn for just one more day of them
For one last time.
Until next time